Love well & be free.

with Katie Loncke

Hi, I’m Katie — a Sex, Relationship and Intimacy Coach with a focus on mindfulness and inner freedom. I help people of all genders explore pleasure in erotic intimacy, connect authentically with self and partner(s), and discover more joy and aliveness.

I offer private sessions to individuals and couples internationally online.

Your First Hour Is Free

 
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Why I Do This

I envision a world where we shed shame and learn to love well.

 
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My Approach

The Somatica® Method lets us practice experiential, mind-and-body-based, relational and erotic skills in real time. With me as your faithful role-play partner, there's a whole world you can explore — including, but not limited to,

How to:

  • Flirt and have fun dating

  • Discover your biggest turn-ons

  • Build secure attachment

  • Release sexual shame

  • Overcome performance anxiety

  • Talk with a partner while triggered

  • Set kind, clear boundaries

  • Rekindle passion in a relationship

  • Intensify your pleasure and orgasms

  • Shape your ideal ecology of intimacy

  • Add mindfulness to your sex life

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Testimonials

“Working with Katie allowed me to feel safe enough to start digging into my erotic desires and how they are deeply tied to the kind of soul-quenching spiritual care I want to offer to the world. I looked forward to every session, knowing that it was a rare space for me to pause on the overthinking, instead tapping into my embodied knowledge and sensations of pleasure.

Katie invited me into a coaching relationship that was truly transformative, joyful, and most importantly, fun. They helped me realize that submitting to my own desires doesn't have to be complicated and that it goes hand in hand with my healing process. The erotic is a powerful and sacred force in all of us!”

— F. L.

 

“Working with Katie has been delightful and grounding for my bodymind. They approach our sessions with honesty, gentleness, and compassion. Katie also gives me exercises or homework to complete as I work toward showing up for myself. Each week, I leave feeling supported in my journey and closer to myself.

Katie models presence and self-compassion in our sessions by being mindful of their own limits and communicating their capacity. This helps me show up more mindfully and as my full self. Our coaching sessions feel like a grounded and honest relationship, with our mutual well-being at the forefront.”

— A. H.

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